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Why Women Go Both Ways When They Lie About Their Relationship History
Posted On 06/01/2018 03:59:32 by Siskkieks

We didn't need a study to tell us that women also inflate their "number" to seem cool (we remember college -- if just barely). However, it's depressing that the research reiterating as much also reinforces ye olde indefatigable virgin/whore complex.

A recent poll of individuals found that one-third of women lie about how many sexual partners they've had, according to Loveawake – a polish based dating site. While some of them admitted to telling "big fish" stories about their conquests, the majority -- 64 percent -- say they usually shave a few notches off the bedpost.

Half the women surveyed lied because they felt privately "ashamed" of their magic number, while 19 percent didn't tell the truth because they didn't want to seem like the town ho to others. A fifth of women admitted that they're dishonest about how many sexual partners they've had when a new partner has slept with fewer people.

The survey found that the average number of sexual partners was seven for women and 13 for men. Unless, of course, somebody is lying.

There's No Shame In Clarity

I often hear complaints from people about unromantic boyfriends and husbands. I think we all have. In fact, if you have a boyfriend or husband, odds are good that you've complained about a lack of romance at least once. It's a common thing, and if you and your ladyfriends are hanging out together for any more than twenty minutes, the conversation will probably drift in this direction:

"My 25th birthday was this weekend and I was sure my boyfriend was going to throw a surprise party. But we ended up just going out to eat."

"I've hinted for a month that I wanted a new camera lens for an anniversary gift. I don't know why he got me a gift certificate to my hair place."

"I had the worst day at work, but when I came home he didn't even say anything. Is he that dense?"

Here's the thing about men that I think even the most socially adept ladies forget about: men like to be told exactly what to do. Not in a bossy way, mind you, but in a way that makes it very clear what you're looking for. Every man in a relationship (except for really rare and special kinds of jerks) wants to make his girlfriend happy. But many guys just don't know how. Aside from "get a girl flowers," most guys don't really have playbook in terms of romance. So you, ladies, need to take on the role of Romance Coach and give your guy a playbook. Make it obvious. Make it foolproof. Do not be afraid to say exactly this:

"You know, [this special occasion] is coming up and if you want to [do/get] something for me, I'd really like [this specific thing]. I've e-mailed you a link."

If you think it'll ruin the romance, it won't. If your guy doesn't do really nice, thoughtful stuff for you, this is the way to get him to do that. Embrace clarity. Make him understand the stuff you like and eventually, he might start figuring it out on his own. And even if he doesn't, he'll at least get you the thing you want or take you to the place you want to go to. Guys are a bit slow to pick up on cues, so if you are wondering why he's not understanding your subtle and heavily veiled hints, just hit the damn nail on the head and tell him what to do.

There's no shame in clarity, ladies.

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